What To Do When You Don’t Have All the Answers

You wake up and you are feeling blah: like your mojo is gone. You are wondering if you are at the right place in life, if you are doing enough, why your business isn’t growing overnight and how come you haven’t been invited to the Oprah show yet.

Chill. We all have those moments where we question everything; where we feel like we know where we’re headed but we don’t know how anymore. We question all the decisions we’ve made so far, resulting in an overwhelming, paralyzing feeling that leaves you wanting to lay down and wait it out; or cry – either or.

 

You are 100% allowed to have mental breakdowns and cry over your partner’s shoulder, freaking out about getting old without making it on the Forbes 30 under 30 lists.

 

I get it. It sucks that your business is still a bit blurry, that you are hustling every day for what seems to be a ‘turtle climbing the Everest’ kind of process. But over the years of building my business, I am sure of one thing. So let me set it straight.

 

Paralysis and overwhelm will get you exactly where you’re scared to be: nowhere.

 

Or worse. You’ll get to the Oprah Show and think you’ve achieved your dreams. But you look back and wonder how the heck you got there and it doesn’t fill you up with the joy you thought you were chasing. You realise you were so obsessed about living for the future that you neglected yourself, your family and your friends. You lost sight of enjoying the journey.

 

So listen: you’ve got to slow down.

 

  • You are exactly where you should be; right here, right now.
  • You are living your best life.
  • You have the right to enjoy the life you’ve got now.
  • You are having an impact. Even if it’s 5 people that you list off the top of your head, own it and celebrate the win. If you can’t care about the impact you’ve been able to make on a few people, being able to reach 1 million won’t even be enough. Trust me.
  • You are already living in your vision. You are already living someone else’s idea of success; and believe it or not, you are living in the future that your 16-year-old self used to dream about!

 

At every level of success, we all aim to find inspiration in those above us. We never truly reach our heroes because the further we rise, the further we look towards for that next step. That’s what makes it fun.

 

 

It’s not about being the best, but always moving forward with a bright smile and kickass confidence.

 

I’ve had coaching calls with influencers with 300k followers. I thought they had made it and yet they thought they were doing poorly. They felt they were not really influencers, couldn’t get the cool agent, felt they needed more followers – it would all happen once they hit that 1 million mark.

On the other side, one of my lovely friends, Laura Herde has 14k followers. She is living her best life, owning her identity as an influencer, spreading self-love messages, partnering up with brands and currently enjoying buddha bowls in Bali.

Do you see where I am going? It all comes down to our own awareness.

 

When you don’t have all the answers, know that everything is ‘figuroutable,’ as entrepreneur, writer and unshakable optimist, Marie Forleo says.

 

Step 1 is accepting this truth; to relax and realize that you can and will figure it out. It means you have to let go of your timeline.

I love the example I read in the book She Means Business the other day:

Say what you want to go from New York to San Diego by car. You know that it’ll be a long 40-hour drive. But you know that there is 100% chance of making it. Your car might catch fire, it might start raining, you could lose a week or two from your original timeline. But even if it means you end up taking a taxi, a train, a bus and a plane, the destination is clear and you will get there.

 

It is a lovely reminder that it’s not just about racing to the end but trusting in the process.

 

It’s how I choose to live my life. I do stop in the park, get a coffee to go, sing my favourite songs, listen to a podcast or call my best friend on the way to tell her about my crazy adventure. I do have a bright smile and try to make the most of it.

You could choose to be angry and mad that thing’s don’t go as planned. You could complain about being exhausted by the walk, think that nothing is fair. But these are things out of your control. What you do have control over is making it a fun ride by trusting that you’ll eventually get there.

So take a deep breath. Enjoy today like it is the best day of your life because why couldn’t it be? Trust that you have the strength, ability and creative genius to figure it out and turn the commute into a roadtrip worthy of any movie.

 

 

When was the last time you were reminded that life isn’t just a race towards the grave?

 

 



French-Canadian Expat in Berlin, my name is Marjolaine, but you can call me Bow. I m a Yoga Teacher, Female Founder, Mindfulness Coach & Pop Singer. I maintain a balance between two worlds with a calm and worry-free mind. Aside from my Mindful Business,  you can find my first dream-pop album ”We Better Enjoy Now on Spotify! After travelling & living abroad for over three years, I understand the reality of young entrepreneurs & digital nomads. We all want to live fully, but we sometimes get lost in the midst of life. Are you ready to bloom and discover mindfulness as a tool for change? Are you ready to get one step closer to living your most beautiful & exciting life starting today?

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