There is no such thing as the FOMO – wouldn’t you say? Oh, but believe me, there is.
When I first arrived in Germany as an international student, I got stung by this disease that I thought was just like a running gag. Amidst the meetings, events, new experiences, conferences, travel opportunities, launches, sports… it was all so overwhelming. It affected me more than I could believe.
And it’s not only students that experience. Most of us have experienced it at least once in our lives. From travellers, women in business, moms and anyone who is scrolled through their Instagram feed, FOMO can be an all too familiar experience.
But, with a little spoon of work, patience, mindfulness and handy tricks, I can proudly say that I finally got to understand how to be in the moment; and not let my mind trick me into believing somewhere else is better.
What is FOMO?
FOMO was adopted in 2013 by the Oxford Dictionary as the:
‘’Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.’’
But personally, I would add that it was the constant impression that wherever you are, whatever you do, you might be missing something else out there.
It was that uncomfortable feeling that you didn’t pick the right choice. You would inevitably be having more fun elsewhere.
It was the thought that you are not worth enough because you weren’t doing the better choice, the cooler choice.
It was the tendency to ask people about the event you missed; about how fun it was; torture yourself with the existential questions about, ‘why didn’t I go?’ or ‘how could I miss that.’ Or maybe you try to justify your choices that they didn’t have as much fun or confirm your worst submissions that they did.
And it gets worse when it settles in.
Let it go on for longer and it settles into an indecisive state in which you want to make sure you want to make the best choice possible. It becomes this exhausting decision-making process that overtakes even the decisions that are definitely not worth that much care. It’s just an ice cream flavor after all!
Something that is supposed to be amazing becomes less so because your mind is busy wondering about what could’ve been. It becomes a lifestyle – exhausting albeit – that takes you away from the present. You are always unconsciously trying to control the future and learn about the past to torment yourself.
There’s so much we can say about FOMO because it’s not just that one feeling but something that affects the really tiny decisions to the more life-changing ones.
The worst comes when you’re exhausted by overextending your mind and overbooking yourself.
Someone suffering from FOMO can start to do crazy things such as double-booking, trying to fit way too many things onto the same day as possible to be sure not to miss anything.
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FOMO makes the intrusive thoughts about all the fun one is missing overtake your mind. It can raise anxiety to a point where any moment, although pleasant, seems bland. Your memory of an event becomes less and less clear, clouded by the amount of time you’ve spent caught up in your head.
If the feeling of all the amounting FOMO and anxiety that has resulted has you concerned, it doesn’t have to be like this. I invite you to spare 30 minutes of your day to listen to my podcast. In LIVE MINDFULLY, I give you clear guidance and steps to understand FOMO, and find mindful strategies to raise your awareness, become more comfortable with taking decisions and enjoy life.
It is a process that needs work, but there is nothing more rewarding than being fully immersed in any given moment. Because it isn’t about the choice you make, but really about learning to listen to yourself and take actions to always find bliss, no matter the outcome.
Explore the episode here.
French-Canadian Expat in Berlin, my name is Marjolaine, but you can call me Bow. I m a Yoga Teacher, Female Founder, Mindfulness Coach & Pop Singer. I maintain a balance between two worlds with a calm and worry-free mind. Aside from my Mindful Business, you can find my first dream-pop album ”We Better Enjoy Now on Spotify! After travelling & living abroad for over three years, I understand the reality of young entrepreneurs & digital nomads. We all want to live fully, but we sometimes get lost in the midst of life. Are you ready to bloom and discover mindfulness as a tool for change? Are you ready to get one step closer to living your most beautiful & exciting life starting today?
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