It’s not always easy to be the modicum of positivity and progress. Particularly as women entrepreneurs, we feel the pressure to have all our shit together.
But sometimes we lose sight of our goals and the momentum that is pushing us to smash them. And the disappointment that we’ve reached that point can cause us to go further into this downward spiral.
But that’s ok; it’s totally normal and natural. What goes up, must come down. Without the dark times, you can’t see the light. You know the drill of all those sayings.
And, right now, I know exactly how you feel in those moments.
After returning home from a year of travelling, I was feeling lost and uninspired, struggling to regain the confidence and optimism I had developed on the road.
It was all too easy to start wallowing in my self-pity. I found myself feeling so guilty for dropping so low and refusing to acknowledge, let alone deal with it. I’ll snap out of it, I thought. I just need to wallow. But without facing it headfirst, I was never going to be able to get out of this rut.
But how do you actually bounce back? How do you disallow the darkness to have power over you? Here are some tips that are helping me to kick me back into shape and regain my mojo.
1. Take small steps and celebrate small wins
Take it easy on yourself. We all can’t snap out of it in a heartbeat and be back on top of the world. Take it one small win at a time. Maybe it’s getting the energy to go out and see a friend for coffee. Maybe it’s crossing a few things off your to-do things. Maybe it’s doing a quick yoga flow or going for a run.
Whatever you need to do to keep moving forward step by step, do it. And recognise the fact that you managed to. Take the wins – even if they seem small.
2. Try something new
The enemy of progress is comfort – so maybe it’s time to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Try a new fitness class – I went to try an aerials class and the focus on trying out a new skill and then accomplishing it, gave me a level of accomplishment that helped to push me further.
It also reminded me of the spontaneity and sense of adventure that had driven me along as I was travelling. It helped to awaken that side of me I had lost with my mojo.
I would still consider myself a sceptic on meditation and don’t practice it nearly enough. But it’s hard to ignore that meditation has inherent benefits to your wellbeing and yes, you can do it too.
Meditation isn’t just about sitting in lotus position on the floor and bringing zen into your life. It’s the practice of recognising your thoughts but not letting them have power over you. When the dark thoughts come of insecurity or self-doubt, letting them go is a powerful way to allow yourself to keep moving forward. That is where the zen comes from.
There’s no better time to try meditation when your thoughts are negative and counterintuitive. Take a moment to just breathe, check in and let go of the negativity.
Start with your little guide to meditation here.
4. Treat Yourself
There’s no better time to treat yourself than when you’re going through a slump. Put on a face mask; get a massage and draw a nice, warm bath. Maybe have a cheeky scoop of ice cream or two. Just take it easy on yourself and realise that you’re going through a hard time and make sure you take care of yourself both emotionally and physically.
I always find that my darkest times end up coinciding with some of my unhealthiest too and it becomes an endless cycle of feeling both your emotions and body fail you. So be sure to take care of all of you and give yourself a break.
5. Get Help
It is always important to reach out for help. Whether it’s talking to a friend, a mentor or even a medical professional, it’s important to know that you’re not alone in this; and not to do it all alone.
I’ve found that hearing stories of other people, their successes but more importantly their struggles have really helped me feel less alone in my own. Listen to podcasts (we might be biased, but why not start with the Live Mindfully one). But I’ve also found great comfort in She Did It Her Way or Girlboss Radio that are particularly inspirational for female entrepreneurs.
Or even Youtube videos. I’ve been particularly inspired by the work of Yes Theory who are spreading the message of positivity through getting out of your comfort zone and realising that the best moments of your life are at the other end of a defiany ‘yes.’
What resources help you out when you’re trying to regain your mojo? Or what other tips do you have? Share them with us below.
I’m Tiff and I’m passionate about empowering people to tell their stories in meaningful and creative ways. A year ago, I quit my corporate job in Sydney, Australia to travel and pursue my own projects. Now, as a location-independent freelancer, I can’t imagine going back. As a writer, I love being able to share my stories and struggles with the emerging remote working community. I haven’t got it all figured out and constantly feel like I’m flying blind, but I’m excited to be giving myself the space to do so. You can find out more on my website, from Instagram or Twitter.
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